There’s no doubt that dating is fun. But if we overdo even the good things in life, they can quickly become boring and not fun at all. Dating multiple people so that you can find the ‘one’ can quickly become exhausting if you’re single; talking about the same things over and over again and always trying to be your ‘best self’.
This is even more difficult when everyone around you is partnered up and you feel like you want to be partnered up too. You only see the benefits of being with someone and have forgotten the benefits of being single.
This is why I recommend going on a dating detox.
What is a dating detox, anyway?
You might have heard of detoxes before. There are digital detoxes, sugar detoxes, alcohol detoxes and more. A digital detox requires you to be away from technology and social media for a while so that you can be more mindful of your online habits.
A dating detox helps you achieve a similar effect in your personal life. It’s a period of time you set aside to not date at all. You can decide how long you want this period to be. You then use this time to pursue understanding yourself better and what you’re looking for in a partner.
There are many benefits of a dating detox. Here are some:
Get to know yourself
A dating detox can be a great time to understand yourself and who you really are. It can be a great way to explore yourself and your hobbies. Of course, you can still do this while you have a partner but having a partner means you have to be considerate about their interests and needs too.
When we are surrounded by people all the time, we are affected by their choices and interests. Relationships are hard work no matter how much you are in love with your partner. You need some time for yourself where you don’t have to think about another person.
Being single gives you the freedom to be selfish. There are many people who undervalue themselves and don’t realize their own self-worth. Many people don’t pursue their own interests and instead, do things their partner enjoys. This can be detrimental to our growth as an individual. This is why it’s good to be selfish sometimes.
We all need to work on ourselves so that we can become a better version of ourselves. You can do this by trying out different hobbies or leveling up your skills by taking online courses. You can even join hobby classes where you explore your interests that you never got the chance to explore before. There are many choices that you can consider depending on your interests.
Being alone doesn’t have to mean being lonely
Many times we think that having a partner is necessary for finding happiness. But that’s not always true. You can still live a fulfilled life even in the phases where you are not partnered up. Just because you are alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely.
If you are feeling lonely without a partner, there may be a reason why you are feeling this way. Sometimes all our friends have partners and we have a fear of missing out. Sometimes our loneliness can be caused by even deeper issues and we may need help to work on them.
What is important in this situation is being self-aware. We should be aware of why we are feeling the way we are feeling so that we can resolve our emotional problems. Once we have identified our negative emotions, it is easier to work on them.
If you are struggling with this, you can turn to trusted friends and have an honest chat so that they can help you. If you want even more help, you can visit a therapist to discuss these issues further.
It’s important to remember that you are not alone even if you don’t have a partner to take care of you and help is always available.
Become a better partner
You can’t become a good partner until you really know yourself. It can be an enlightening experience to discover what kind of person you really are and what kind of person you want as a partner. When you are self-aware and more mindful about your choices, you can become a better boyfriend or girlfriend.
This is good for you as well as your partner.
Sometimes when we are single, we are asked to lower our expectations if we really want to find someone. In our desperation, we find someone to date even if don’t really enjoy their company. A dating detox can help you have better relationships where your partner is equal to you in every way.
How to use the detox time effectively
Keep a journal where you can write regularly without worrying about grammar or any other rules. Journaling is a great way to track your emotions and note down how you are feeling at different times of the day or in different places. Since you are the only one who is going to read your journal, you can be completely honest with yourself.
Discover the joy of going places alone, you’ll be surprised how much you enjoy a beautiful view in the park or a delicious meal in a restaurant when you can fully focus on it.
Spend some time with your other single and non-single friends. Often in life, we don’t understand the importance of friendships but they are just as important as relationships. Cherish them.
Remember, a dating detox can last for however long you need it to, to better understand yourself and what you want from life and a partner. Life is about balance, after all. A dating detox is temporary. You can get back in the world after this detox, but this time with a better understanding of yourself.
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