You wake up in the morning but you’re already tired.
You check your Instagram and see your friend just got a job that pays way more than yours.
You go for a walk and come across a friend who just got married.
You come back home and think to yourself: what the fuck am I doing with my life?
It’s okay if you’re feeling this way. The truth is: we all feel like this at some point in our lives. Our society is built in a way that we are always made to strive for more. Just earned $1 million? Cool, no go for $10 million. Just found the love of your life? Cool, now go marry them. Just got into a good university? Cool, now study hard to stay on top.
No matter how good you’re doing in life, it’ll never be enough.
You’ll always be behind someone, there’ll always be more to do.
It’s easy to feel exhausted if live such a life.
But what’s the solution?
Take a deep breath
Stop doing whatever you’re doing. Pause. Rest. And take a deep breath. Stop running away from your problems. Stop running toward your problems. Relax. Look around you. Admire where you are, pat yourself on the back for how far you’ve come. You can’t move ahead while you’re tired.
Our lives will always be unpredictable
You can make as many plans as you want but if it’s not meant to happen, it won’t. So we might as well embrace the uncertainty. Things will happen when they are supposed to happen. Be patient.
Your time will come
When we’re feeling down, it’s difficult to see what life has in store for us. If you’re going through a dark time, you’ll be able to stand up once again. Your life will be good again soon.
It’s okay to lose sometimes
Over the last few years, I have lost a lot. It sucked. A lot of people’s lives changed during the pandemic, my life was changing for the worse way before the pandemic. Nothing worked out in my favor.
I wanted to give up.
But instead of giving up, I decided to take a break. I left everything behind. I started a new life. Because I realized that no human being can win every race. It's okay to lose sometimes.
(Also read: How I Dealt With My Depression and Survived It)
Stop holding onto things not meant for you
We don’t like letting go of friendships that we’ve outgrown even when it’s necessary. We don’t like breaking up with our partners even when we stopped loving them a long time ago. We continue working for bosses who we hate.
We need to let go of things, people and situations. Only then can we learn to move on in life.
You can always restart your life once again
I am now learning that it’s good that things didn’t work the way I wanted them to. Because now I have completely different rewards, rewards that I never even thought I would get.
I am learning that I lost at some things so that I could win other things, things that are more aligned with who I am. I am learning that it’s okay to not want things that everyone else wants. I am learning to embrace my losses so that I can finally restart my life.
You still have time
Life is short, yes. But it’s long enough for us to make beautiful memories. There’s no point in rushing, no point in running after things that hurt us.
You are resilient. You have survived all of your bad days and you are going to continue doing it until you finally close your eyes.
Have more faith in yourself
You may feel like you’ll never succeed again in life. I suggest you believe in yourself a little bit more. There’s no one in this world like you. You are pretty special. So, why would you give up on yourself?
Your relationships will end.
Your friendships will end.
You will quit your jobs.
You will get your heart broken over and over again.
And you will still survive.
You may feel like you’re behind in life right now. But you’re exactly where you are meant to be. And you’ll end up where you want to be.
Just don’t ever give up.
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